The role my grandma plays in my life is a lot more than just being my grandma. She is my inspiration, mentor, and role model. I got to learn so much about her through our interview. I was able to get a different perspective and better understanding of her. I wanted to compare my essay with someone who had the same role model in their life as I do. Alivias essay was perfect to compare to because not only is her role model her grandma as well, but our grandmas went through similar life experiences. Alivia and I are also friends, so it was interesting to see similarities between us. We were able to find many similarities in our grandmas personalities and how they live. I knew my grandma was very strong minded so I wanted to see if Alivias grandma was too and if so, in what way. To get into more depth, I also decided to compare Alivia and I to see how our grandmas affect our lives individually. Doing this allowed me to understand how much of a huge part our grandmas play in our lives weather we realized it before.
After reading Alivias paper about her grandma, I am able to say that strong minded would be an understatement in describing our grandmothers. Strong minded in the best way possible, they are not bossy, they just have the right outlook on what they want. From Alivias grandma changing her families traditional Christmas ways, to my grandma moving from India to Hawaii and starting up her own bikini store; I can easily say our grandmothers are powerful women. Alivias grandma grew up a lot like my grandma in the sense that they both had big families, strong family values, and traditions. Alivias grandmas family always celebrated Christmas the same way, with the typical giving of presents to family members. Her grandma had enough one year, and realized her families celebration of Christmas was too caught up in the selfish idea of receiving presents. Although she was young, she knew there was more to Christmas than that. It was from then on, her grandma sat out from her families Christmas celebration every year. Not because she was being a brat, but because that is just not what she stood for, therefor wanted to have no part in it. Once she started her own family, they went to feed the homeless home cooked meals on Christmas instead. Her grandma showed her character and how much of a giving person she is. Hearing this reminded me about my grandmas giving of her cooking. She will make breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner for me whenever I want if I ask, sometimes even when I don’t ask. Not because I want her to, or because she feels the need too. Simply because she wants to. It’s an act of kindness that fills her heart with happiness. She loves to know that I am eating her hard labored home cooked meals.
The other week she went to the hospital for knee surgery. She recovered for a few days at the hospital, until she was released to go home. I went to visit her thinking she would be in bed and in pain. Not my grandma though, she was in the kitchen making me a five course meal. It was at that point I had to take a step back and reevaluate life. I could not believe what I was seeing and how honored I felt. She is old, and just had knee surgery but that did not hold her back. I heard no complaints from her. The only one being, “Ria, you haven’t said how the food tastes yet.” Only because I was still in shock that I had a five course home cooked meal sitting in front of me. These genuine acts of kindness are very inspiring, and motivate me to be a better person as well.
The story of Alivias grandma changing Christmas reminded me a lot of my grandma in the sense that her grandma did not care what others thought, although her family was very upset with her for sitting out of Christmas every year. It took a lot to stick to that, and then to later change the way of celebrating Christmas for her family and the generations to follow. This says a lot about how she is as a person. I could imagine how hard it must have been for her to try to stand up for what she believed in, with no one else supporting her and actually going against her. That is a tough and unhealthy environment to grow up in. My grandma too had very strong mind upon arriving in Hawaii straight from India. She had never been to the United States before, and didn’t even speak english. It took her a while to adapt to her new lifestyle. When she got her, she knew what she wanted to do, and that was to open a bikini shop here. Many people laughed at her and didn’t took her seriously. They didn’t think she would be able to run her own store. She believed in herself and that was all that mattered at the point. It was the drive within her that lead her to still have the most successful business in Koko Marina. She is one of the most amazing business women I know. When a customer comes in for a suit, she knows exactly which suit to pull out for them. The willpower our grandmas have make them unstoppable, and are the reasons why they are successful in everything they put their mind to. Most other people wouldn’t have done what they did when people told them not to.